Well I’m officially out of the wilderness and back in society. And I’ve got to say it’s been a bit of a shock to the system! I realise that I’ve been living in a very protected little bubble these past 5 months. Cue freak out!
Having had a couple of weeks to reflect I realise that lodge life offered me such a perfect work/life balance and a 500km buffer from the pace of modern life. It gave me:
An steady income stream and a strong sense of purpose
A daily routine that looked a little like this: work >> yoga/meditation >> work
The perfect ratio of connection & interaction versus space for solitude, contemplation and creativity
Simple (rent-free & bill-free) living that was close to nature and (mostly) stress free
Overall, this experience gave me a sense of place and a high degree of security.
And now, as I transition back into the "real world", I've found myself caught off guard with a whole range of intense emotions. Things like:
Fear and anxiety about the future
Old money and abundance related issues
Feelings of impatience that I’m still travelling around and still not ’settled’
General (but at times intense) feelings of loneliness, isolation and insecurity
But I know I'm not the only one who fears the future, gets impatient, worries about money or feels insecure at times (even though we often feel alone with them).
Fortunately, I do have past experience to guide me in this moment and I can recognise a pattern to all that I'm feeling.
Hello time of uncertainty! Hello change! I know you…but that doesn’t mean I'm comfortable with you.
Having moved around a lot in recent years, I recognise that times of transition (moving from place to place or going from one experience to another) are unsettling. The mind & ego likes what it knows after all and movement and change always brings the unfamiliar.
We all like certainty and stability in life but the only thing that IS certain in life is UNCERTAINTY.
Life is always in transition. We just perceive it as static. Nothing ever stays the same in this world, that’s a fact. From the cradle to the grave our body, mind and circumstances shift and evolve. Life is a continual and dynamic process of change. Some changes are small and barely perceivable, others big and dramatic.
While you tend to feel more comfortable when you've got things all figured out, ultimately the only way to feel permanently at ease is to accept that you're not actually the one who's in control.
Which is much easier said than done! So as we move towards 100% acceptance of this reality, there's some other ideas and affirmations I use to be okay with the uncertainty of not knowing. Here they are:
5 Strategies For Being At Peace With The Unknown
- Be present.
When it’s all too hard to figure out, bring yourself back to THIS day. Going into the future and having discussions about all the possibilities it holds is a sure way to scramble your mind, and rob you of any peace. Trust me, I do it all the time.
- Focus on what you’re grateful for right here and now.
Gratitude is such a powerful practice. It shifts your perspective and tunes you into positivity and abundance. A much better vibration to attract what you want going forward, rather than what you don’t.
- Remember that it’s your choices that brought you to this moment.
Sometimes we forget that our present experience is the result of our own past choices. Because our feelings change, what seemed like a good idea way back when, sometimes doesn't match up with what we feel we want NOW. It's about trusting the process and the timing of your life.
- Let go of 'doership'
A time of change is a great opportunity get past this sense that you’re the one who’s in creating the outcomes of your life. Remember that life is happening through you rather than to you. Way easier said than done I know, but its one of the deepest truths. We only ever THINK we’re in control.
- Repeat after me: "Everything's going to be ok"
This is one of my favourite phrases. It's so simple and yet very powerful. When I feel unsettled and insecure, hearing Micah or someone tell me "Everything is going to be ok" is so very comforting. But in the absence of a loved one, tell it to yourself! While those strong doubting emotions move through, you might not believe it. But as the intensity of feeling fades and gives way to rational thought and constructive action, you’ll realise its true. After all, when have things ever not worked out??
Of course, these strategies are ADDITIONAL to my yoga & meditation practice.
A tantric style of yoga practice that combines posture and mental focus allows you to consciously shift your energies very quickly. Emotions like fear, doubt and confusion are created through an imbalance in the lower chakras, but through asana, pranayama and mental concentration you can harmonise these centres as well as move that energy up and outta there!
As you move your energy through your practice, you change your vibration which brings balance, positivity and a more peaceful mind. One hour of practice can be the difference between self-doubt & self-confidence!
So here's to uncertain futures! And to trusting that:
Over to you now. I'd love to know how you deal with the uncertainty of life. please feel free to get in touch personally or leave a comment below for all to enjoy.
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Until next time,